“Men weren’t really the enemy—they were fellow victims suffering from an outmoded masculine mystique that made them feel unnecessarily inadequate when there were no bears to kill.”

-- Betty Friedan

A contribution from Rachael Jayne Groover:

A masculine man loves to become aware of a need and fill it. That’s why they love to fix things, make things “better” for you when you are upset, and put a lot of focus on their work.

Many men only put attention on what is directly and specifically needed, which is why many bright, confident, self-sufficient women have trouble attracting a great man – or if they have one, keeping the fire of passion burning a long time. They give off the energy that they do not need a man, and because of this they are caught in an unfortunate catch-22 situation. The culture of the last 50 years has taught women to set up their lives so they do not need to depend on someone else, BUT the essence of the masculine is drawn to women who need them.

It is important for women in intimate relationships to create needs so that the masculine essence can come and fill it for you. After all, it gets very tiring doing everything for yourself all the time. What I am describing is not the damsel in distress, or a woman that cannot fend for herself. Instead, I am inviting you to be a powerful woman who chooses to let others be there for her. When you create a need, it doesn’t mean that you can’t fill it yourself, it just means that you give the honors to someone else – and for most men it really is an honor.

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~ Rachael Jayne Groover

“One learns people through the heart, not the eyes or the intellect.”

-- Mark Twain

“It is no use trying to sum people up. One must follow hints, not exactly what is said, nor yet entirely what is done.”

-- Virginia Woolf

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