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GETTING WHAT WE DESERVE
"She'd been so programmed by Julian to
think of herself as inferior material that if a man threw
himself at her feet, her immediate reaction would be to call an
ambulance."
-- Lucille Kallen
Hi everyone,
My dear friend Cena has generously offered today's
message. I think this is a subject that resonates with many of
us. She promises to share a Part 2 soon.
~
Patrice
Restore your inner home
Recently, I was asked why a woman would stay with someone who
treated her poorly, in ways she did not deserve. Let's reflect
on this question for a moment.
Why would we, as women, stay with someone who treats us less
than we deserve?
The most important part of the question to tackle is 'less
than we deserve'. What do we believe we deserve? Many of us
short-change ourselves in this department. We believe we deserve
exactly what we get. And even when we do not believe we deserve
something bad, we accept it. Why?
We are all storied as children. Family, friends, even
strangers leave hurtful comments behind -- some intentionally,
some unknowingly. Either way we are left to decide what to do
with them. In an ideal world we would be taught to take those
hurts, those negative messages out to the trash where they
belong. We would wait and watch the trash collector come to
carry them away forever, ridding our internal houses of such
emotional garbage. Unfortunately, even in the best of homes some
of that emotional sludge doesn't make it to the trash.
[Click
here to read more.]
~ Cena
"Living with integrity means: Not settling
for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships.
Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your
truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving
in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making
choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe."
-- Barbara De Angelis
P.S. I've discovered some confusion around the source of the
beautiful 'cosmic travelers' quote I used last week. It appears
that at least part of it should be attributed to Paulo Coelho,
from his book, The Alchemist. So sorry for any inaccuracy!
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